Ego is like choosing to stay stuck in traffic, but you know there’s an easier way home from work.
Yet, you still choose to stay stuck, sitting in the line of cars – bumper to bumper.
You don’t even bother asking yourself why – because there’s no way you’d question your ego.
Result: You miss exercise class and time with your family. Bummer.
After reading this, you'll know:
What ego is
The three ways your ego might be disconnecting you from your well-being
How to design the outcome that connects you to an empowering and healthy life.
WHAT IS EGO?
- "The idea, or opinion, that you have of yourself – especially the level of your ability of intelligence and your importance as a person” – Cambridge Dictionary
- Ego is self-formed as a defense mechanism to protect the ‘’information masquerading as knowledge, masquerading as truth, which is residing as clutter in your subconscious mind.” – Quora
Think about this for a second.
- the opinion you have of yourself
- masquerading as truth
- a defense mechanism and clutter
Now let’s talk about well-being.
WHAT IS WELL-BEING?
- The state of feeling healthy and happy – Cambridge Dictionary
- Being at peace with yourself, both inside and outside…which isn't bound by restlessness, rather staying in the present and in the moment. Additionally, well-being is “sufficient in nutrition, liberty, and freedom; and safety from abuse, violence, coercion, threats…” – Quora
the state of feeling healthy and happy
sufficient in nutrition
safety from threats
THREE WAYS EGO DISCONNECTS YOU FROM YOUR WELL-BEING:
Let’s break these elements down further:
Your body is designed to adapt to change, but your body is mechanical and loves routine. You get comfortable. This can limit your abilities.
Adaptation can disguise or distract how we value ourselves.
Remember, you chose to stay stuck in traffic – because you’ve adapted to this routine. You also probably tell yourself, “It’s not that bad.”
I bet you if you had the option to shift your hours at work to avoid rush hour, you’d probably vow to never drive in rush hour again.
Our environment plays a huge part in our egos. We’ve adopted the roles society has constructed for us – because that’s what we’re “supposed” to be or not be. And, it’s what we’re supposed to buy or not buy.
There’s also this notion of a black and white picture – either it’s “right” or it’s “wrong.”
Your environment creates “norms” for you.
Remember, you chose to stay stuck in traffic – because you’ve convinced yourself that rush hour is just a normal part of the day. You play right into this.
What if you accepted that women are “supposed to be thin” because that’s how beauty is defined?
Just because something is normalized doesn’t mean it’s healthy.
This information is “masqueraded knowledge” your ego has come to accept.
Energy can affect your emotions, your body’s natural defense, and whether or not you take risks.
Fear is a form of energy.
You've been told to be afraid, whether it's from past experiences or what people have told you. But, you'd rather stay afraid.
What would happen if you took charge, got off the next exit, and went the faster way home? Would there be a sense of danger in doing this? Why?
Are there fears influencing your decisions? Or, is it that you’re just avoiding emotional conflict?
You can see how ego can get in the way of your well-being.
So, how can you ditch the ego and create a healthier outcome for yourself?
1. Think about a stressful situation you feel stuck in right now. Sit with it. Ask yourself:
2. How is your ego disconnecting you from:
- Valuing your health and happiness?
- Providing sufficient nutrition and freedom?
- Honoring safety from perceived threats?
- Nourishing the relationships that matter to you most?
3. Design a healthier outcome.
- What are you in control of, not in control of?
- What choices do you have?
- What would be an ideal situation for you? Why?
- How will you get there?
- Where will this lead you?
All you need to do is let go of your ego, and paint the picture of what you want your life to become.
Your body will be able to adapt to any environment you put your energy into.